The following is a list I made that shows the qualities I think the Bible lays out as necessary and that I would enjoy in a wife. I know the woman God wants me to marry most likely won’t meet every one of these points at every moment of the day, but this is just a general rule that I hope to use to find a woman who is far more precious than jewels.
1. Devoted, radical, orthodox Christian
2. Calvinist
3. Agrees with me theologically
4. Loves and desires the Word of God more than her daily bread
5. A woman of prayer
6. Wants me to lead her in prayer every morning before we begin our day
7. Will confide in me all her sins and problems with Scripture so I may guide her and help her
8. Will submit to and respect me
9. Sharpens and edifies me by her speech and helps me to grow in Christ
10. Understands true femininity and is not a feminist
11. Reverent in her behavior to everyone
12. Not a slanderer or gossiper
13. Loves me
14. Loves Children
15. Self-controlled
16. Pure
17. Wants to work and stay at home
18. Kind
19. Has a quiet, gentle, reserved spirit
20. Not obsessed with outward physical beauty
21. Not silly and loud and extroverted
22. Merciful to the poor
23. Maintains the household and helps her husband
24. Dignified
25. Wants to have as many children as possible with whatever resources we have
26. Will be willing to adopt children
27. Understands that children need to have the rod of discipline applied
28. Will allow me to decide the appropriate punishments for our children
29. Will allow me to carry out punishment when present
30. Understands that punishment should be gospel centered
31. Hard worker
32. Understands the parallel between our marriage and Christ and the church
33. Loves that she is allowed to represent that relationship to the world
34. Will be able to handle problems that arise at home, but will be sensitive to my leadership
35. Wants me to lead the house in all areas and encourages me and helps me to do so
36. Will attend the church I attend
37. Understands the importance of gathering together with a local church for worship and edification
38. Desires to have visitors in our home to either edify them and have fun together or witness to them through our household
39. Will be willing to seek godly counseling if we need help
40. Is willing to catechize our children and have them memorize Scripture
41. Will memorize Scripture with me
42. Wants to have family worship together at least once a week to sing, study, and pray with our family
43. Will be willing to initiate physical intimacy
44. Will be willing for me to initiate physical intimacy
45. Has a proper understanding of Biblical intimacy and having sex for the glory of God
46. Will be confide in me her desires and preferences when it comes to physical intimacy
47. Wants to help please me as I try to please her in physical intimacy
48. Doesn’t want cable
49. Wants to home school our children
50. Will be willing to live wherever the Lord will have us
51. Knows how to cook well
52. Doesn’t want a lot of entertainment
53. Will let me know what bothers or angers her
54. Will point out sin in my life in a loving gentle way
55. Will listen to my loving rebuke of her sin
56. Will be willing to work if it doesn’t interfere with maintaining the household or our children
57. Will want some dogs and not cats
58. Will be willing to live in a quiet, modest, and moderate way with our finances
59. If the Lord gives us more money than we need, will want to give the rest to the church or missions
60. Will be willing to go witnessing with me